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FREE ONLINE TOOL POINTS TO TOP SUICIDE GRIEF RESOURCES

1/17/2013

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Expert information about grief after suicide -- plus links to nearly a hundred of the top resources for survivors of suicide loss and those who care for them -- are available from the Suicide Grief Support Quick Reference. The free online tool features content that is up-to-date and dependable, including:

• Introduction - Suicide Grief Support: Explains survivors' experiences and needs, describes reactions to trauma, and covers how to be helpful
• Resources for Survivors: Links to websites, booklets, and handouts designed for survivors, and offers information on support groups, school and community postvention, and special populations (such as the military and people of color)
• Resources for Children: Lists websites, materials, and information about how to help children after a suicide
• Online Support for Survivors: Provides links to discussion forums, listservs, chat rooms, and blogs especially for survivors of suicide
• Guidance for Caregivers: Points to information on key principles as well as to resources for survivors who are also caregivers

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'GRIEF AFTER SUICIDE' IS A 'MUST READ' FOR CAREGIVERS

8/31/2012

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Grief after Suicide: Understanding the Consequences and Caring for the Survivors, edited by John R. Jordan and John L. McIntosh, is a groundbreaking book featuring in-depth coverage of every aspect of suicide grief support. The book's goals, according to its editors,

are to establish not only what is known about suicide survivors and postvention efforts to assist them, but also to draw attention to vital information that is not known but would help us to better understand and assist survivors of suicide ... [including] recommendations for future research and postvention goals for the future.

The editors and more than 40 contributors to the book's chapters solidly accomplish those goals, covering in-depth and comprehensively the most up-to-date information about an impressive range of topics of interest to people working with the suicide bereaved. The editors begin by asking and attempting to answer several fundamental questions:



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TWO SURVIVORS SHARE GRIEF JOURNEY IN CROSS-COUNTRY CYCLING TREK

5/17/2012

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I received an email recently from suicide bereavement support group facilitator Marcia Epstein about two remarkable young men who are biking across the country to bring attention to suicide's impact on individuals and communities. Marcia directs the Headquarters Counseling Center in Lawrence, Kansas, where local survivors had a potluck dinner for the cyclists.

Zachary Chipps and Thomas Brown met in 2009 as co-workers in an after-school youth recreation program in Scottsdale, Ariz., and discovered that each of them -- when they were 24 years old -- had lost their older brothers to suicide. Their common experience sparked their creativity (Zak is a drummer, Thomas is a video artist), and they formed R.I.S.E. (Revolution Inspired by Self Evolution) to organize the cross-country trek, which began in March at the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco.
They will be using various forms of media, including blogging and in-depth video shorts, to connect more intimately with those who are participating and following their journey. While many have traveled by bike or foot across the country, and have blogged about their adventures, their planned extent of real-time video blogging will be unprecedented. Thomas will film the entire tour, providing a collective view of suicide, the ripple effect it can create in one’s life, family and community, and how “personal reflection and creative expression can be a catharsis to counter stressful ordeals."

Below are examples of the video clips Thomas and Zak are posting along the way, the first one features Thomas a few days after their journey began on the West Coast, and the second one features Zak more than two months later in eastern Kansas:


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GRIEVING PEOPLE'S GOALS DIFFER, BUT RECOVERY PRINCIPLES CAN SHOW THE WAY

5/7/2012

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Over the years, as I have worked with (and learned a great deal from) people who have lost a loved one to suicide, I have tried to understand what the goal of grief is. Is it to move on? To heal? To go on a journey? To integrate the loss? To make meaning of the death? All of these goals -- and many, many more -- have been named for me as different people's ideas of what the objectives of grief might be. 

And the conclusion I have come to is that every bereaved person's goal is different.

However, as a grief support practitioner -- someone who tries to help bereaved people -- I have found it important to have goals for myself as I do my work, and it has been useful to me to view grief through the lens of recovery. If I am guided by the principles of recovery, I can focus on the process, and the bereaved person I am working with can determine his or her own goals.

The recovery model that I believe is the most broadly applicable to my work is from the National Consensus Statement on Mental Health Recovery, the elements of which I have outlined below (I've shortened them from the original, and altered some of the wording to focus on bereavement). These recovery principles guide my work:
  • Self-Direction: Grieving people ought to lead, control, make decisions about, and define their own recovery through autonomy, independence, and access to resources. Recovery must be self-directed by individuals determining their own life goals and designing a path to reach those goals.
  • Individualized and Person-Centered: The pathways to recovery are as multiple and various as the nature of individual bereaved people are. Recovery is at the same time an ongoing journey and an accomplishment, and it is a means for achieving optimal mental health and overall wellness.
  • Empowerment: Individually and collectively, bereaved people must be empowered to control their destiny in organizations and communities. They must be able to choose among a range of options, participate constructively in decisions that affect them, and efficiently remedy their grievances. 

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JOIN A DISCUSSION ON "KEY INGREDIENTS" OF PEER SUICIDE GRIEF SUPPORT

3/14/2012

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What are your ideas about the "key ingredients" of peer suicide grief support? Please join the discussion on this important topic.

Peer grief support is an emerging field of practice that is especially applicable to helping people bereaved by suicide. For ages, those who have experienced grief themselves have offered to assist newly bereaved people, and now peer helper programs and training are among the forces transforming this means of support into a systematic practice. 

A significant amount of suicide grief support is delivered by peers, especially through suicide bereavement support groups, and it would be valuable to take a look at lessons being learned in other areas where peer helpers are delivering services. One such area is the U.S. military, regarding which a white paper was recently published, "Best Practice Identified for Peer Support Programs" (download available). The document identifies the following "key ingredients ... [that] account for the special effectiveness of peer support interventions":
  • Social support includes "emotional support, information and advice, practical assistance, and help in understanding or interpreting events."
  • Experiential knowledge (particularly knowledge based on common experience) gives peer supporters "greater credibility as 'experts' in dealing with the problems and challenges faced by the person seeking support."
  • Trust is present when the person being helped experiences the helper as honest, unselfish, and reliable. 
  • Confidentiality is the centerpost of effective peer assistance, in part because it is the basis for trusting the helper.
  • Easy access is fundamental for obvious reasons: Even if a peer support program is extraordinary in every other way, it cannot be effective unless people who need help are able to take part in the program.
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